Why women date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause heartache, and other troubles. Plus you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, money, age difference, spiritual upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married woman date.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I am conserned mostly though it is just the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us escape the real world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody can switch the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You will need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest cluster, enormous truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An affair occasionally solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the male is sexually neglecting his female for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed separately, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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